The absence of pain does not equal the presence of pleasure. And we want to develop a concept of liberation that’s rooted in pleasure instead of simply escaping trauma. READ MORE.
Because we’re in a system that gives us anti-black messages on a daily basis, it is even more important for us to resist by centering our pleasuring. LISTEN HERE.
As Saah and Fiallo note, "there’s something radically beautiful and politically empowering about black women embracing pleasure and breaking out of the molds we didn’t create for ourselves..." READ MORE
"For me, my most orgasmic life isn’t just my sexual orgasms. I am using my orgasms as a litmus test for every aspect of my life." READ MORE
Afrosexology on Political, Revolutionary, and Empowering Sex and Sexuality. LISTEN HERE
When you get a second, do yourself a huge favor and visit Rafaella and Dalychia's website Afrosexology, a treasure trove of curriculum-based workshops like Radical Twerk and Mirrors, Magic & Masterbation, anonymous love letters, sex-positive black art, an insightful blog, and much more. READ MORE.
“It can be really easy to internalize self-blaming messages that reinforce the idea that you shouldn’t own your sexuality,” says Fiallo. “Instead, explore your sexuality, know what it means to surround yourself with things and people that bring you pleasure, and affirm that you deserve to be a sexual being.” READ MORE.
"Dirty talk can be as basic as saying “I want you to do this here, at this speed, until this”—with you filling in those blanks with your own personal preferences." READ MORE
Afrosexology on Black pleasure, masturbation, & radical twerking. LISTEN HERE
“[Black people] are also deserving of pleasure and joy and love and healthy relationships and to feel good. Our bodies deserve to be affirmed.” READ MORE
"Today, me and Dalychia and Rafaella of Afrosexology talk about putting on a masturbation show! My mind was blown. I was scured- but now I'm brave! When are you putting on your show?" LISTEN HERE
"Bottom line: A hurtful or traumatic experience at the doctor is NEVER okay. Yes, they’re a licensed professional, but you’ve got a lifetime of expertise with your own body. Trust your gut and stand up for yourself." READ MORE
"On this episode I am joined by Afrosexology, we discuss how history plays a role in our community’s approach to sex, why reclaiming your personal sexual agency is needed, and whether masturbation is affirmation." LISTEN HERE