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Pillow Talk is our blog where we provide answers to your most erotic, intimate, vulnerable, and sexy questions. We respond with sex-positive, pleasure-centered, medically accurate sex education to help you navigate some of your most pressing concerns. Join us in the conversation by submitting your questions here.
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reclaiming what it means to be a sexual Black woman.
Q: Personally I find it hard to think about me being sexual and a black woman because there are sooo many bad stereotypes that I don’t know how to get past, like in porn it’s much easier for me to watch porn with white people than black people because I think of what the world thinks of us. It’s hard because we are all seen as ghetto as black people so when I hear other black people talk like that I get turned off sometimes. I just don’t want it to be a black thing if that makes sense at all.
how to feel sexy and get out of your head
Q: I am so self-conscious anytime I try to be sexy in front of a partner and feel uncomfortable/awkward…
5 tips for being on top
Q: I haven’t had sex in so long that I do not feel as if I'm flexible enough to do it. Could you give any stretching tips and just general tips on how to ride?
10 questions with our co-creator, Rafaella
So much of my focus is on our community, learning about your needs, and how to best provide offerings to meet them that I forget that folx want to know more about who is behind the work.
10 questions with our co-creator, Dalychia
In growing our Afrosexology community I’ve been honored that so many people have trusted us enough to share some of their most intimate, vulnerable, and erotic experiences. It’s encouraged me to trust you all with more parts of myself…
how do i unpack sexual shame?
Q: Do you have any tips for how can I begin to explore sex and relationships after years of religious sexual shame?
reclaiming what it means to be a sexual Black woman
Q: Personally I find it hard to think about me being sexual and a black woman because there are sooo many bad stereotypes that I don’t know how to get past…
does anal sex feel good?
Q: Hi! I've never tried anal sex. I just want to know if the anus is an erogenous zone for women?
quick on the draw: dealing with pre-ejaculation
Q: For the past year on and off, I have been quick on the draw intimately with my wife and was wondering what can I do to change that?
don't kiss me after you give me head!
Q: Is there a polite way to tell a partner during sex that you don’t want to be kissed immediately after they finish giving you oral?
vaginismus & ways to deal with painful sex
Q: It seems that I again hold racial trauma in my vulva which causes my vagina to be tense and cause painful penetration…
orgasms, cumming, squirting - oh my!
Q: I was just wondering if you guys have any tips on achieving a female orgasm and 'cumming'…
i'm a virgin who wants to explore my sexuality
Q: I'm a virgin and somedays I feel embarrassed about it. I get discouraged because I feel that no one wants to date a virgin…
my husband's sex drive is lower than mine!
Q: As a married woman, age almost 35, with an active sex drive and a husband of the same age with not as much drive...
how we are socialized to be sexually assaulted & assaulters
Q: I wanted to reach out because I've been struggling to draw the line between consent and non-consent…
searching for the sexual goddess within
Q: I’m having trouble with feeling sexy. I'm not gonna lie sex kind of both exhilarates me and scares me…
Beyonce, Rihanna, Nicki - sexually liberated or sexually lost?
Q: My mom and aunt are always talking about Beyoncé, Rihanna, Nicki Minaj, and many black women who are openly sexual or express sexuality as a step back for all black women…
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Danielle Gilmore, Black 32, queer, exploring polyam
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