Dalychia (she/her)
Dalychia is a dreamer who deeply believes in our ability to build lives, relationships, and a world that meets our needs and most liberated desires. Through pleasure sex education, she helps people intimately know and feel freedom in their bodies and relationships, express themselves in their most authentic ways, and release shame and oppressive-based barriers. She is a sexuality educator, writer, speaker, and graduate professor who is passionate about healthy relationships, orgasmic living, and Black liberation.
Rafaella (she/ella)
Growing up, Rafaella was the kid next-door sex-positive friend who was eager to research and talk about sex whenever it came up! Now, as a sexuality educator and therapist, she combines her passion for community education and sexual healing to create spaces centering around pleasure, wellness, and liberation. She holds a master’s degree in Social Work and owns a therapy practice specializing in relationship, sex, and trauma therapy.
pleasure is your right.
pleasure is your responsibility.
pleasure is your resistance!
what we believe
pleasure-centered
Too many sex platforms only focus on performing sexual acts. For us, it’s not just about what you do but how you feel. We also don’t limit pleasure to our sex lives. We center our work on pleasure because we believe that we all deserve to build affirming, consensual, healthy, and pleasurable relationships with ourselves and others. Pleasure-based sex education can help encourage the exploration of various practices which can lead to a pleasure-filled life. Pleasure skills like consent, communication, boundaries, asking for what we want, etc naturally help us to navigate our sexual and nonsexual lives more pleasurably.
community
Having a space to openly talk about sexuality as we travel on this path of sexual self-discovery, unpacking sexual shame, and reclaiming pleasure is healing and liberating. It’s important for us to create an inclusive community where we feel welcomed to ask questions and share information without fear of judgment or violence. We pride ourselves in creating a brave, safe, and welcoming space, one that requires accurate education, space for vulnerability, and accountability. We also acknowledge that the goal of liberation is not an individual one, but a collective experience and process that demands we grow and help one another in respect and love.
affirming
There are enough shame and fear based messages in the world that force us to dishonor ourselves. Our community supports and affirms all consensual explorations of pleasure. This is your body and sex life, you can choose to do with it as you wish. We’re here to provide accurate information, guidance, and resources as you navigate making the best decisions for you and your partner(s).
journey
We believe that the journey of sexuality and sexual exploration begins in childhood and continues throughout our lifetime. Sexual education is vital in promoting a life full of pleasure and sex-positive experiences that will continue through older adulthood. The way we explore, reimagine, and identify our sexual selves will change over the years, which is expected and welcomed. With practice, we build skills that allow us to stay curious and compassionate with ourselves as we navigate changes in our bodies, relationships, and lives. Liberation is a state of being and not a place of arrival. This is a lifelong journey that requires all of us to be teachers and learners, supporting one another and sharing the lessons we’re learning along the way.
liberation
As we move towards Black liberation, we believe that reclaiming our bodies is an act of resistance in a system designed to alienate, control, and destroy us. We see reclaiming body agency as important as economic, social, and political agency. For us, liberation is desire work and through sexual liberation, we can discover our desires for our bodies, relationships, and world.
Love Note from our community
“Hello, just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your workshops & program. It's the missing piece to the puzzle for me. I have attended 4 of your workshops and I have gained useful tools & tactics; healed in many needed areas; and felt supported & understood in a way that I have never experienced. I love that you seemed to have found a passion and made it your work. While also meeting a community need. I admire your vulnerability, determination, & Afro-centered approach. Please keep doing what you are doing & may it flourish in the way that you both envision.”
anonymous
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